I’ve been a mom for 24 years and a nurse for 12 years. Clearly that makes me an expert on both, right? Sitting here now I realize I can’t give myself such a broad subject because I can’t figure out where to start!
Our youngest turns 18 in 2 weeks, graduation in next weekend. This has made me so very sad/tearful this week. I really don’t know what to do if I am not being a mom/wife/nurse 24-7. It just doesn’t seem that I’ll have enough to keep me busy and if I’ve learned anything from years of counseling I’ve learned there is no better way to avoid resolving a disastrous childhood then to have a very busy life!!
We all know children don’t come with a handbook but I’ll tell you what, I know what things I got right and…….which one’s I got wrong!! I can also tell you that the older I get the better I get at parenting, I am sure of it!! To anyone that ever tried to claim that you can be a great parent at a young age hadn’t been a parent at 40+. Everyday I get better, I become more humble, more wise and all around better parent!! Although I raised 4 kids while finishing nursing school and working 5 doubles a pay period, I do much better work over the last few years, working 40 hours a week and co parenting!! Although the children often ask where the other mom went, they are quick to tell you how great the last few years have gone.
So the trip to Chicago has come and gone! Of course I didn’t blog about it at all like I thought/hoped I would. We did have a wonderful time though and spent plenty of money! In true Sunshine fashion I left myself broke afterward BUT you only live once!
So sticking with this follow up is a lot harder than I thought. Not because I don’t want to write!! It’s completely opposite of that!! It’s so strange the number of things that prevent me from writing:work, kids, husband, myself……
At any rate, I booked a room in downtown Chicago @ AC Hotel Chicago Downtown after looking @ trip advisor, trivago, and several hotel specific sites. After considering the dates, length of stay, amenities, cost and location I kept coming back to this hotel and the best deal I could find was from: Hotels.com
So, like many other people I thought I would certainly have plenty of money because of my tax return, of course, in what to seems to be true Sunshine fashion I find out that I probably won’t have my tax return so I really need to pick up some over time! Just what I need during this: getting to know myself period of my life!!…………
Soleil will turn 19 on March 18th. All she really asked for was a Wii! Instead of a party I was thinking we could take a little trip. That happens to be spring break weekend and I’m always hoping to put something affordable together to do as a family. Originally I was trying to organize a quick trip to the Wisconsin Dells (none of us have been) but that just didn’t give me enough time to plan.
Roger and the kids have not been to downtown Chicago to stay for the weekend so I think that’s what we are going to do! We will be leaving Friday, March 17th and returning Sunday, March 19th. There are so many websites to help with traveling but it’s hard to get a site that gives you the best price on every aspect: hotel, food and entertainment. I’m excited to use a website: Time Out Chicago. It appears to cover everything but I’m not sure if it includes competitive pricing but we shall soon find out!!
I’m hoping to get up there Friday and have time for dinner and maybe do something touristy that night. Saturday we will probably go to Navy Pier, Sears Tower, Sheds Aquarium and then I’m not sure: eat lots of good food and drink lots of good drinks!! On Sunday we will probably sleep until 10-11 and then grab some Chicago style pizza for lunch and then head back home! Well, wish us luck, I’ll let you all know how it’s going and how it goes!
So technically speaking Roger and I have 6 children: He has 2, I have 2 and we have 2 together. Austin is 1 of the “his 2”. Once upon a time he was itty bitty and when asked his name he would respond: “my name is Autin” which was one of the many adorable little encounters folks used to have with the now 6 foot tall 20 year old 2nd-3rd year college student. Still adorable just on a much larger scale! Some days I wouldn’t know he was home if it wasn’t for the never ending yelling at the xbox……one day I’m hoping he will become wealthy from the time put in to his xbox. No worries though, if that doesn’t work out he does happen to be very smart and is working on a degree in engineering. I’m thankful he is here for many reasons but one thing he does without effort is balancing out the female to male ratio in the house and until/unless you have lived in a house that isn’t balanced you can’t really appreciate the significance!!
17 1/2 years ago our youngest was born, Alexa Kay Louise!! She was s force to be reckoned with from the start. I had the chicken pox for the first time while I was pregnant with her, which caused no real trouble but the Dr said she was born with a few pock marks. During delivery she was in such a rush, I went from being dilated 2cm to 10 in about a half hour! She was born with a little bruising to her cheeks because of it. I had to return to work when she was just 4 weeks but she never lacked attention because she had her G-MA (my mom, their Mam-ma) wrapped around her little finger! As she grew up she was always the center of attention, either because she was much more outgoing than her siblings and/or because she was often the squeakiest wheel!! She has the personality type I’ve always envied: always speaking up and never afraid to ask for what she wants!! She has certainly grown into a very beautiful, very smart young lady and I’m certain she will never settle for less than the best!!
In March of 1998 we had our first girl together: Soleil Channing Marie. All of my kids have 2 middle names and all the names are for a reason dear to me. Soleil is french for sun (and my name really is Sunshine) Channing is the last name of my favorite actress in Grease (Stockard Channing) Marie is my sisters’ middle name. As she was growing up I realized she was kind of growing into a little me. In most ways I think that is wonderful and in every way I am proud of her! I noticed that she was painfully shy at times as am I.
In the last couple of years she decided that she would go into nursing as well. Of course I think it is a perfect fit but at the same time I worry for her because I know how caring she is and how stressful the job is/can be. Especially losing a patient or resident. I am thankful that she has tagged along to work several times and started out in the dietary department ahead of her CNA program at school. Now she has been a CNA for a few months and will be starting her pre reqs at RCC this fall. I keep thinking I have plenty of time before she grows up when in reality she turned 18 this past March. It goes by so fast….