On June 7, 2009 God proved to me that there is a “new and improved” love that I had to give!! He gave me my first grandchild!! A grandson!!
Skylar Henry Lee Boliard aka “my little lover man”.
Of course now that he is 9 going on 19 I get eye rolling when I call him my little anything 🥰
When he was about 4-5 years old he went through a Ninja loving phase. He couldn’t say Ninja at the time so one day he came running in our bedroom dressed in a black skeleton costume and a plastic knife in one hand and a star in the other and very proudly announced “look, I’m a inja maw-maw” ….. Cutest line ever!
Then came technology! It wasn’t until Skylar spent hours running around the house making music videos of mainly himself, a couple with his sister’s and one with my mom that I heard of “tiktok”. I never let him out of sight with technology but naturally I was a little worried when I heard bad things about the app! However, the videos were adorable. I suppose I could be biased but I doubt it!
Skylar has recorded a few videos in documentary form here and there but this is by far my favorite!
I’m sure he will be a star one day soon!
October 19, 1994 (2 weeks after my due date, 1 day after a failed attempt at inducing labor and 4-6 hours after the Dr assisted my water breaking) came my 2nd bouncing baby boy!
The next day we took him home and unlike his older brother he started sleeping 4+ hours at night within the first couple of weeks. He was such a calm baby (especially in contrast to his brother) that I called the pediatrician concerned something was wrong! After a handful of questions the pediatrician assured me that Zach was just fine and just a good sleeping baby!
I’ve mentioned this in a past post but I like to remind my kids that they are so smart and healthy because I breast fed all of them and Zachuery for the longest. I’m sure there is a direct correlation to his good health and generally good decision making!
As the boys were growing up we always told them Zach would be president and his older brother Sean would be his bodyguard. That’s not quite how things have turned out but it gives you a feel for their personalities.
Zach did great in school and starting in 5th grade (due to his distain for daycare) he started watching his little sisters before and after school. He was always so responsible and fairly meticulous. We realized at one point that he had been folding his dirty clothes and when we would eat out everyone would be done eating but Zach would just be done cutting his food into perfectly even pieces!!
A review of over 200 birth order studies found that middles are characterized as sociable, more faithful in monogamous relationships, and have the fewest “acting out” problems…..
However, if events would have been different then I would not have spent this summer with the newest born love of my life…..Zachs’ daughter : Rima
￼Unfortunately in September Rimas’ mother came and took her to Texas and will not allow us to see her or talk to her. Zach and her mother were never married so at this point he has no legal rights. However, I have quickly become a legal self help guru as a result and I have begun filing the necessary paperwork to get into court and establish paternity and custody/visitation. We do not have lots of money for an attorney but we are going Monday for a free consultation! In the meanwhile we are keeping busy using our missing her as motivation to work hard on getting her back in our lives!!
Every once in awhile I actually slow down long enough to enjoy life. It feels so strange, like doing something your not suppose to be doing ie: sitting around all day watching football/ bachelor in paradise and your favorite music videos of all time. I feel like that last sentence just told my age…..I did own….well my mom owned an 8 track version of the pop song: Little Red Riding Hood by, OMG, I just looked up the artist: Sam the Sham & The Pharaohs. Like really…80s….you couldn’t come up with anything better….maybe shorter. Well anyway, moving on…….I feel as though maybe I shouldn’t write during these times because it will either ramble on, get off track several times……or worse yet, just make absolutely no sense whatsoever. Actually I like that idea! My goal will be for this post to make no sense whatsoever!
So, last night I was babysitting my beautiful Granddaughter
She just so happens to love music which works great for me! She really gets excited over every genre that I play from the 70s through today but she really seems to love the 70s & 80s! I think she appreciates (I’m having a very hard time articulating right now) the grandness? the bigness? the loudness? Hell, I don’t know, all I know is that she is clearly from my DNA!! She loves:Queen, Aerosmith, Pointer Sisters, Ciara, Nikki Minaj, EMINEM….that was the most important test! At any rate she took a late nap last night so she was raring to go, singing and dancing to music with me and then running off to wreak havoc on the house, the pig, the cat and my Mom! Nonetheless we had a great time!
So, if anyone is keeping up I’d like to give myself props: A week ago Wednesday I stopped taking some “unnecessary” medication. Luckily I was already sick as I could possibly be and for the 6 days following I was able to taper down another “unnecessary” medication. So today makes 5 days or 120 hours with nothing “unnecessary”.
I have to write lightly for another 30-60 days because what I write could effect much more than this blog. So in this post and “all in a week” I had to write in a manner that I will clarify later but I feel like if I don’t add some “fine print” that I am not being honest…if none of this makes sense than: 1: I’ve accomplished my earlier goal for this post and 2: I’ll clarify it all at a later date.
So there are so many things that “fill up my cup” or satisfy that emotional craving for fulfillment. Some of my top cup fillers include: Family Time, Grandchildren, Church and Advocating. It seems as though there is hardly enough time for the cup fillers because all my time is taken between sleep and work. At this time we have several G-children with 1 on the way and many more to come I’m sure.
7 years and 9 months ago I received a phone call at work from my oldest son: “Mom she has taken 3 tests and all of them say she is pregnant” So after the initial shock and several other bumps in the road, my very first G-child was born: Skylar Henry Lee Boliard. Anyone that knows me, knows that Skylar is: “My Little Lover Man” He has manage to fill my cup more times that I can count!! For as many years as I can remember Skylar has been informing us that he has a bit bigger head than the rest because he just so happen to have not just one brain but 2! No wonder he has a big head.